Getting there: love, or something

How is it that we’re raised to believe that you’re going to find someone, some…one…that loves you so wholly and so timelessly that they look you in the eyes in front of all your family and friends and straight-up lie to you and say “til death do we part”? How is it possible that someone can authentically tell you they will be in love with you forever when they probably don’t even know who they are at that moment (if you’re in your twenties), and they definitely don’t know who they’ll be in 5 years, or certainly a lifetime. I would love someone to look me in the eyes and authentically say that they have no idea what the future holds but they can’t wait to figure it out and keep me posted. And more importantly, to be my biggest supporter while I do the same. That they can’t imagine more joy than to laugh and revel in the perfection of this moment and the next with me, but if there is a something sweeter than this, it’s beyond their current comprehension without me. The right person(s) will have a curious mind and want to know me as I evolve, and I will do the same.

Loyalty is absolutely a quality I strive for and I look for. I am loyal to a crippling fault. I do not give up. But now more than ever I see the value in setting boundaries. Loyalty does not mean abstaining from someone else, but always seeking the best in yourself and in others. When one infringes on your freedom or time to be your best self, it’s time to set boundaries.

Jealousy, like guilt, is a wasted emotion except as a calibration tool or a lesson learned. I want every room I’m in to be filled with the brightest, most intelligent, most beautiful people beyond my imagination, if only so my imagination expands, lifting me with it.

Cheers to those who ask for little and take even less.